My wife and I have been blessed with six sons. We have been further blessed that she has been able to breast-feed all of them. The benefits of breastfeeding are multiple. While there are those who may exaggerate those benefits and those who may downplay them, the scientific evidence is fairly convincing. Breastfed babies have been shown to have a reduced risk of ear infections, stomach viruses,
respiratory infections, atopic dermatis, asthma, Type 1 and Type 2
diabetes, childhood leukemia and a gastrointestinal disease in preterm
infants known as necrotizing enterocolitis. There are also many who believe that breastfeeding increases a child's intelligence. For the mother, breastfeeding is reported to reduce the occurrences of postpartum depression, certain types of cancer, hypertension and diabetes. All things considered, breastfeeding is a very good thing.
A new report released in the Journal of Alzheimer's Disease shows that breastfeeding may also lower a woman's risk of Alzheimer's disease. While it is a fairly small group that the study researched, the results are eye popping. Women who breastfed at some point in their lives showed a 64% reduction in their risk of Alzheimer's when compared to those who had children but didn't breast-feed.
http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-204_162-57597014/breast-feeding-may-lower-moms-risk-of-alzheimers-disease/
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Tuesday, August 6, 2013
Tuesday, July 2, 2013
Want to Improve Your Memory? Eating smart really can help you keep your brain sharp.
Antioxidants! Omega-3s! Anti-inflammatory diets! Can something you eat really help you remember — again — where you put your cellphone or reading glasses? If you add blueberries to your morning oatmeal or sip a glass of red wine at dinner, will your brain cells stay healthier longer?
http://www.aarp.org/health/brain-health/info-06-2013/worried-about-your-memory.html?intcmp=HPBB1J
http://www.aarp.org/health/brain-health/info-06-2013/worried-about-your-memory.html?intcmp=HPBB1J
Monday, January 7, 2013
Dementia Observations
I was watching on of my favorite "lazy Sunday afternoon movies' this weekend, A Few Good Men. At one point in the movie, the lawyers are discussing their case when Tom Cruise's character says: "It doesn't matter what you think. It only matters what you can prove!" Sometimes art really does imitate life. But then again, sometimes it doesn't.
There are a number of things that I have learned in my years at Home Instead Senior Care. Some lessons I have learned correlate with specific scientific studies and factoids which validate my amateur assertions. Most of the time, however, my experience has taught me things that medical science may not publish.
This is one of those times.
There is an old adage about Alzheimer's and dementia which states: "Once you've seen one case of Alzheimer's, you've seen one case of Alzheimer's." That is true. And while every person who battles with Alzheimer's has a unique story to tell, there are some fairly consistent themes. Alzheimer's is typically a steady progression. It may be a fast progression. It may be a slow progression. In every case I have seen, it is a steady progression.
Here is a theoretical (and in no way related to a real person that I spoke with recently) example.
A previously competent father falls one morning and is admitted to a hospital for observation. After being discharged, he is sent to a rehab facility where he can receive medical attention for his wounds until they are healed. Within days of admittance into the facility, he begins to show massive signs of confusion and is hardly able to carry on a conversation. The family contacts me and says- 'He won't be able to return home now that his Alzheimer's has progressed.'
This is not the Alzheimer's that I have seen. Whenever there is an immediate drop in cognitive function, there is almost always another cause. There might be a stroke or some other type of event. Most commonly, it is a result of medication changes in my experience. Senior's kidneys work less efficiently and therefore make them more susceptible to the effects of 'pharmacological tinkering.'
So if you see someone who was as 'sharp as a tack' yesterday and 'doesn't know he's in the world' today, chances are that it isn't Alzheimer's.
[Opinions expressed therein are observational in nature and do not constitute a medical diagnosis. Lair Family Ventures LLC dba Home Instead Senior Care are not liable for any damage done if reader adopts what was previously stated as an opinion as a matter of fact. But seriously people, why would you look to a blog to diagnose or treat anyone. I'm flattered. But seriously?]
There are a number of things that I have learned in my years at Home Instead Senior Care. Some lessons I have learned correlate with specific scientific studies and factoids which validate my amateur assertions. Most of the time, however, my experience has taught me things that medical science may not publish.
This is one of those times.
There is an old adage about Alzheimer's and dementia which states: "Once you've seen one case of Alzheimer's, you've seen one case of Alzheimer's." That is true. And while every person who battles with Alzheimer's has a unique story to tell, there are some fairly consistent themes. Alzheimer's is typically a steady progression. It may be a fast progression. It may be a slow progression. In every case I have seen, it is a steady progression.
Here is a theoretical (and in no way related to a real person that I spoke with recently) example.
A previously competent father falls one morning and is admitted to a hospital for observation. After being discharged, he is sent to a rehab facility where he can receive medical attention for his wounds until they are healed. Within days of admittance into the facility, he begins to show massive signs of confusion and is hardly able to carry on a conversation. The family contacts me and says- 'He won't be able to return home now that his Alzheimer's has progressed.'
This is not the Alzheimer's that I have seen. Whenever there is an immediate drop in cognitive function, there is almost always another cause. There might be a stroke or some other type of event. Most commonly, it is a result of medication changes in my experience. Senior's kidneys work less efficiently and therefore make them more susceptible to the effects of 'pharmacological tinkering.'
So if you see someone who was as 'sharp as a tack' yesterday and 'doesn't know he's in the world' today, chances are that it isn't Alzheimer's.
[Opinions expressed therein are observational in nature and do not constitute a medical diagnosis. Lair Family Ventures LLC dba Home Instead Senior Care are not liable for any damage done if reader adopts what was previously stated as an opinion as a matter of fact. But seriously people, why would you look to a blog to diagnose or treat anyone. I'm flattered. But seriously?]
Wednesday, October 31, 2012
Gimme the Candy!
To say that there are an abundance of children in my neighborhood would be an understatement. Our house sits on the corner of two cul-de-sacs which, in total, represent 32 children. Halloween is kind of a big deal. Nevertheless, I am guilty of two Halloween sins. First, I turn my lights off before the candy is really gone. Once the stash of candy has run down to the dregs, I flip the light off and retreat to my lazy boy (aptly named) where I work to avoid the stomach ache which will undoubtedly follow the consumption of that many Sour Patch Kids. Second, I lie to my children. My oldest son has a peanut allergy and we therefore must screen all of our children's loot to ensure that there are no peanut candies hiding in the mix. Over the years, my wife and I have taken increasing liberties with the screening process. My kids are now convinced that there are many candies that could potentially spell disaster for people with a peanut allergy. Such as: Gummy Savers, the aforementioned Sour Patch Kids, Smarties, Rolo's, Swedish Fish, Airheads, Nerds, Sweet Tarts, Now-n-Laters, and anything with dark chocolate in it. These are a few of my favorite things. Following the onslaught of our neighbor's goodwill, the kids all come back home and dump their goodies onto the living room floor where I scour the contents of their respective pumpkins, removing all "risky" items. Safety is important on Halloween.
I thought this blog was about seniors?
Relax, I'll get there.
One of the parts of the natural aging process is the reduction in the body's ability to taste things. This is due to a number of factors such as a reduction of saliva production as well as a reduction in the actual number of taste buds. Frequently, you will see older people dumping unholy amounts of salt, pepper, vinegar, Tabasco, etc. onto everything they eat. They don't decide to begin bathing their food in hot sauce because they have suddenly gone cajun at the ripe old age of 65. They do this because it is the only way they can taste the foods. The reduction of a senior's ability to taste their food has a couple effects which merit words of caution. First, it is no fun for older adults to eat so they don't. The only thing worse than eating by yourself is eating a meal you physically can't enjoy by yourself. Proper nutrition is important at every stage of life but probably most of all for seniors, some of whom are managing chronic conditions. These conditions can be greatly exacerbated by poor nutrition. At Home Instead Senior Care, our caregivers pay special attention to the nutritional needs of seniors and work to make meals more enjoyable. They do this not only through companionship but also by working to make mealtime more of an event. Eating out of microwaveable cardboard container stinks even with good conversation. Setting a nice table goes a long way toward making meals more palatable even if it is only for the eyes.
Ok. But how does this have anything to do with Halloween and your crimes against children?
Hold on to your hats because I'm about to bring it all home.
Riddle: If you are unable to taste anything except for things that are exceptionally salty or sweet and suddenly find yourself with an abundance of Halloween candy, what will you probably eat?
Answer: All of the leftover Halloween candy.
The days following Halloween are great times to visit the senior in your life and check in on the nutrition front. Look to make sure that there isn't a ton of candy left over which could pose a significant health threat in the absence of other foods. Plan a trip to the grocery store to provide nutritious companions if not alternatives to the belly full of Snicker's Minis that will represent the first thing your senior has been able to taste in weeks.
If the senior in your life is unreceptive to this kind of assistance then I would encourage your children to be more insistent about that second or third treat in the basket. Arm them with kind words like: 'It's for your own good,' and 'Because we care.'
Have fun and be safe tonight, dear readers. Happy Halloween!
I thought this blog was about seniors?
Relax, I'll get there.
One of the parts of the natural aging process is the reduction in the body's ability to taste things. This is due to a number of factors such as a reduction of saliva production as well as a reduction in the actual number of taste buds. Frequently, you will see older people dumping unholy amounts of salt, pepper, vinegar, Tabasco, etc. onto everything they eat. They don't decide to begin bathing their food in hot sauce because they have suddenly gone cajun at the ripe old age of 65. They do this because it is the only way they can taste the foods. The reduction of a senior's ability to taste their food has a couple effects which merit words of caution. First, it is no fun for older adults to eat so they don't. The only thing worse than eating by yourself is eating a meal you physically can't enjoy by yourself. Proper nutrition is important at every stage of life but probably most of all for seniors, some of whom are managing chronic conditions. These conditions can be greatly exacerbated by poor nutrition. At Home Instead Senior Care, our caregivers pay special attention to the nutritional needs of seniors and work to make meals more enjoyable. They do this not only through companionship but also by working to make mealtime more of an event. Eating out of microwaveable cardboard container stinks even with good conversation. Setting a nice table goes a long way toward making meals more palatable even if it is only for the eyes.
Ok. But how does this have anything to do with Halloween and your crimes against children?
Hold on to your hats because I'm about to bring it all home.
Riddle: If you are unable to taste anything except for things that are exceptionally salty or sweet and suddenly find yourself with an abundance of Halloween candy, what will you probably eat?
Answer: All of the leftover Halloween candy.
The days following Halloween are great times to visit the senior in your life and check in on the nutrition front. Look to make sure that there isn't a ton of candy left over which could pose a significant health threat in the absence of other foods. Plan a trip to the grocery store to provide nutritious companions if not alternatives to the belly full of Snicker's Minis that will represent the first thing your senior has been able to taste in weeks.
If the senior in your life is unreceptive to this kind of assistance then I would encourage your children to be more insistent about that second or third treat in the basket. Arm them with kind words like: 'It's for your own good,' and 'Because we care.'
Have fun and be safe tonight, dear readers. Happy Halloween!
Tuesday, October 23, 2012
How Does Your Garden Grow?
I find some of my greatest life lessons in my garden. Last year, I built two raised bed gardens in my backyard. I had grand dreams of the food we would grow there. Initially, the garden I made was a thing of beauty. Rich black soil, the smell of fresh mulch, bees buzzing busily as they pollinated my crops. Each morning and evening I would water and preen by hand. In short order, my garden began to blossom. Then life happened. I got busy. I got too busy to continue to spend the amount of time that I had initially spent cultivating my garden. As a result, weeds and bugs began to invade. Before long, the fantastic thing I built was no longer.
So much of in-home care is a garden. Initially, we utilize a ton of resources to ensure that we are recruiting and training the very best caregivers available. The background check we run on all our applicants continues to be the most thorough available, the reference checks and drug screening we insist upon have set the standard for in-home care. But that isn't enough. We must continue to water and preen our garden lest the weeds and bugs should invade. This is the new battlefield for in-home care providers.
One of our two core values at Home Instead Senior Care in Chapel Hill is to exceed the expectations of everyone that we encounter. We call it our 4E's. Sadly, the expectations from seniors and their families are fairly low. They have become accustomed to a certain amount of tardiness, a certain amount of apathy, a certain amount of absenteeism when dealing with in-home care. Their experience with the industry has taught them what they can realistically expect. From day one, we fight against this "assumed reality" with our clients and our caregivers. From birthday and anniversary cards, to our P.E.A.Q. program, to our quality assurance visits, to our on-call policy, to our community involvement-Home Instead Senior Care is working to exceed the expectations of everyone that we encounter. As anyone who is happily married can tell you, relationships do not build themselves. Like gardens, relationships require constant effort if they are to grow.
Monday, October 22, 2012
Engaging the Lost Causes
When caring for people who are suffering from Alzheimer's and other forms of dementia, there comes a time when the person suffering loses the ability to communicate. During typical late stage Alzheimer's, a person may be bed or chair-bound, unable to speak, and in some cases completely unresponsive. Sadly, the temptation is to disengage from the person we love at this point. Why bother talking with them when they can't talk back? Why ask them questions to which they can no longer respond? While this approach is understandable to anyone who has dealt with this disease firsthand, it misses a huge opportunity to continue to connect with the people we care about.
During our Alzheimer's and Other Dementia training at Home Instead Senior Care, we deal specifically with late stage clients. We address the fact that just because the people for whom we are caring aren't able to verbally validate our attempts, we shouldn't be discouraged from continuing to interact with them. We should, however, amend the techniques we use in order to give them the maximum benefit of our involvement.
The techniques we use for late stage clients all revolve around the five senses: smell, touch, taste, sight, and hearing. These senses unlock a world of memories for the clients that we serve that we may never truly realize. For all of us, there are certain things which take us to another time and place.
-If I smell Cinnamon Butter Cake, I am transported back to my grandparent's house in Woodward, OK. I can see the large front door they had swinging open as my brother and I bound out of the car after a long drive up from Texas and into their waiting arms.
-The feel of a saxophone in my hands brings back memories of long band bus trips and cold competition mornings.
-The taste of tamales paints a portrait of Christmas in San Antonio that no artist could ever come close to rivaling.
-The sight of pictures of my kids in their toddler years brings smiles to my heart that last all day.
-If I hear the song "Two Princes" by the Spin Doctors, I find myself sitting in the back seat of Jana Davis' car on the way to school. She was a beautiful flute player in the high school band who as a senior agreed to give me a ride as a freshman so that I wouldn't have to ride the bus.
None of these journeys you can go on with me. For our dementia clients in their late stages, you can't go where they are headed either. You may never get the validation of knowing that you have given them the memory tool to take that mental trip. But we do not care for those in our lives in order to attain some personal validation, we care for them in order to provide them with the best possible quality of life. And on that mission, we never give up.
During our Alzheimer's and Other Dementia training at Home Instead Senior Care, we deal specifically with late stage clients. We address the fact that just because the people for whom we are caring aren't able to verbally validate our attempts, we shouldn't be discouraged from continuing to interact with them. We should, however, amend the techniques we use in order to give them the maximum benefit of our involvement.
The techniques we use for late stage clients all revolve around the five senses: smell, touch, taste, sight, and hearing. These senses unlock a world of memories for the clients that we serve that we may never truly realize. For all of us, there are certain things which take us to another time and place.
-If I smell Cinnamon Butter Cake, I am transported back to my grandparent's house in Woodward, OK. I can see the large front door they had swinging open as my brother and I bound out of the car after a long drive up from Texas and into their waiting arms.
-The feel of a saxophone in my hands brings back memories of long band bus trips and cold competition mornings.
-The taste of tamales paints a portrait of Christmas in San Antonio that no artist could ever come close to rivaling.
-The sight of pictures of my kids in their toddler years brings smiles to my heart that last all day.
-If I hear the song "Two Princes" by the Spin Doctors, I find myself sitting in the back seat of Jana Davis' car on the way to school. She was a beautiful flute player in the high school band who as a senior agreed to give me a ride as a freshman so that I wouldn't have to ride the bus.
None of these journeys you can go on with me. For our dementia clients in their late stages, you can't go where they are headed either. You may never get the validation of knowing that you have given them the memory tool to take that mental trip. But we do not care for those in our lives in order to attain some personal validation, we care for them in order to provide them with the best possible quality of life. And on that mission, we never give up.
Friday, October 19, 2012
A Turn For the Worse
If I had a nickel for every time I heard the phrase "Since she has been at the hospital, Mother's dementia has taken a turn for the worse," I would be a very wealthy man. The idea that hospitals cause dementia is an amazing phenomenon to me that way too many people accept at face value as a universal truth of aging. Hospitals do not cause dementia. Granted, with the size and confusing layout of most hospitals even I forget how to get back to the parking garage from time to time. The fact that so many seniors never have the opportunity to return home from a hospital stay due to the mysterious "dementia monster" attacking them upon admission is troubling. The fact that this absurd logic is never even challenged is downright maddening.
What causes dementia is, in fact, a mystery. Scientists know that the greatest risk factor is advancing age but beyond that the entirety of medical knowledge on the subject resorts to what can be most aptly described as a "best guess scenario."The sudden, rapid progression of dementia is a far less complicated matter to investigate than actual dementia. So allow me.
In the normal aging process, senior's bodies begin to function differently than they did in younger years. Kidneys do not function as efficiently as they once did. This particular facet of aging, I believe is responsible for a huge percentage of the post hospital rehab admissions today. Imagine this scenario:
A woman, age 94, has lived independently since her husband's death two decades ago. She continues to be fairly engaged in the community and has a caregiver who comes in twice a week to keep her company and assist her with errands and chores around the house. At times, she has troubling recalling certain things but the things she forgets will generally come back to her and do not interfere with her daily life. She is a model for aging with independence. One day she slips and falls while retrieving the mail. Due to the brittle nature of her bones, she fractures her left hip requiring surgery. The surgery goes extremely well, especially considering her age, and the doctors all say that after some quick rehab she should be fine to return home with limited assistance as before. Not so strangely, she begins to show confusion following surgery. It is gradual at first and then increases rapidly. The doctor's offer a simple explanation. Sometimes in a hospital situation, a senior's dementia takes a turn for the worse. AAAAAAAAAAAAAGH!! With respect to the kind hearted medical professionals, allow me to postulate another theory. This particular 94 year old has avoided medications for most of her life wherever possible. She takes a baby aspirin every morning and a multivitamin because an episode of Donahue told her that doing so might reduce her risk of certain cancers. Suddenly, due to her hip fracture, she is being given an anesthetic for the actual surgery, a sedative to help her sleep at night, a medication to prevent constipation, and Oxycodone to ease the pain. When you combine that cocktail with the knowledge that her kidneys are not filtering these drugs effectively, another possible diagnosis presents itself. She isn't suddenly demented. SHE IS HIGH!!
I wish I could tell you that this woman eventually stabilized and was able to return home. I wish I could tell you that she wasn't discharged to a skilled nursing facility where she was administered a daily dose of instant-dementia for the rest of her days. Most of all, I wish I could tell you that her's was a unique story. But alas, I am unable to make any of these statements and instead sit here at the keyboard typing, collecting a nickel for every time that I hear that someone's dementia has taken a turn for the worse.
What causes dementia is, in fact, a mystery. Scientists know that the greatest risk factor is advancing age but beyond that the entirety of medical knowledge on the subject resorts to what can be most aptly described as a "best guess scenario."The sudden, rapid progression of dementia is a far less complicated matter to investigate than actual dementia. So allow me.
In the normal aging process, senior's bodies begin to function differently than they did in younger years. Kidneys do not function as efficiently as they once did. This particular facet of aging, I believe is responsible for a huge percentage of the post hospital rehab admissions today. Imagine this scenario:
A woman, age 94, has lived independently since her husband's death two decades ago. She continues to be fairly engaged in the community and has a caregiver who comes in twice a week to keep her company and assist her with errands and chores around the house. At times, she has troubling recalling certain things but the things she forgets will generally come back to her and do not interfere with her daily life. She is a model for aging with independence. One day she slips and falls while retrieving the mail. Due to the brittle nature of her bones, she fractures her left hip requiring surgery. The surgery goes extremely well, especially considering her age, and the doctors all say that after some quick rehab she should be fine to return home with limited assistance as before. Not so strangely, she begins to show confusion following surgery. It is gradual at first and then increases rapidly. The doctor's offer a simple explanation. Sometimes in a hospital situation, a senior's dementia takes a turn for the worse. AAAAAAAAAAAAAGH!! With respect to the kind hearted medical professionals, allow me to postulate another theory. This particular 94 year old has avoided medications for most of her life wherever possible. She takes a baby aspirin every morning and a multivitamin because an episode of Donahue told her that doing so might reduce her risk of certain cancers. Suddenly, due to her hip fracture, she is being given an anesthetic for the actual surgery, a sedative to help her sleep at night, a medication to prevent constipation, and Oxycodone to ease the pain. When you combine that cocktail with the knowledge that her kidneys are not filtering these drugs effectively, another possible diagnosis presents itself. She isn't suddenly demented. SHE IS HIGH!!
I wish I could tell you that this woman eventually stabilized and was able to return home. I wish I could tell you that she wasn't discharged to a skilled nursing facility where she was administered a daily dose of instant-dementia for the rest of her days. Most of all, I wish I could tell you that her's was a unique story. But alas, I am unable to make any of these statements and instead sit here at the keyboard typing, collecting a nickel for every time that I hear that someone's dementia has taken a turn for the worse.
Monday, September 24, 2012
Still Funny
Several years ago, at our Home Instead Senior Care International
Convention, a senior citizen named Mary Maxwell delivered the
invocation. Part prayer, part hilarious rant about aging; it left us all
howling with laughter. The Youtube video has since gone viral with
almost 10 million views but I still crack up every time I watch it.
Enjoy!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPFCn3itBFE
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPFCn3itBFE
Tuesday, September 18, 2012
Both Sides
I have been blessed by so many things in my life. Among the most wonderful of these blessings is my wife. I like to think that we have 'a groovy kind of love.' We have had our ups and downs but after 11 years there have been far more ups than downs. After a decade, she still takes my breath away.
On Monday evenings, we host a church small group comprised mostly of younger couples. We enjoy sharing in the excitement of their marriages and in walking with them through the reality check that often occurs after about six months of living with a new spouse. Ah, young love.
At work however, I am privileged to be able to observe the other side of love. I meet almost daily with husbands and wives who are living out their covenant vows in often painful and trying circumstances. I see wives who are doing everything possible to preserve the dignity of the man that they adore as his mind and body are ravaged by the effects of Alzheimer's disease. I see husbands drive daily to sit by the bedside of the love of their life and softly sing a song to which they used to dance. No longer able to walk, they hold hands and dance through their memories together. It is a poignant, beautiful thing that I get to see. It is a picture that moves me to cherish my bride even more.
Two members of our small group, Ben and Brittany recently walked through a moment like that earlier in their marriage than they had ever imagined. Complications surrounding the birth of their twins put the survival of the mother and both of the daughters in jeopardy. We give thank God that Brittany and both of the girls are home and doing very well. Today is Ben and Brittany's two year anniversary. Somehow I think that he will hold her a little closer today than maybe he did before. Not because he didn't love her before but because he has now seen both sides. The blinding affection of young love is intoxicating but fleeting. The mature resolute love that has been tested and yet endures is sacrosanct.
http://vimeo.com/15103432
On Monday evenings, we host a church small group comprised mostly of younger couples. We enjoy sharing in the excitement of their marriages and in walking with them through the reality check that often occurs after about six months of living with a new spouse. Ah, young love.
At work however, I am privileged to be able to observe the other side of love. I meet almost daily with husbands and wives who are living out their covenant vows in often painful and trying circumstances. I see wives who are doing everything possible to preserve the dignity of the man that they adore as his mind and body are ravaged by the effects of Alzheimer's disease. I see husbands drive daily to sit by the bedside of the love of their life and softly sing a song to which they used to dance. No longer able to walk, they hold hands and dance through their memories together. It is a poignant, beautiful thing that I get to see. It is a picture that moves me to cherish my bride even more.
Two members of our small group, Ben and Brittany recently walked through a moment like that earlier in their marriage than they had ever imagined. Complications surrounding the birth of their twins put the survival of the mother and both of the daughters in jeopardy. We give thank God that Brittany and both of the girls are home and doing very well. Today is Ben and Brittany's two year anniversary. Somehow I think that he will hold her a little closer today than maybe he did before. Not because he didn't love her before but because he has now seen both sides. The blinding affection of young love is intoxicating but fleeting. The mature resolute love that has been tested and yet endures is sacrosanct.
http://vimeo.com/15103432
Friday, September 14, 2012
Wheelchairs at the Gym
Several years ago, my family took a trip to Disney World. My wife was eight months pregnant with our fourth child. Our three other boys were old enough to enjoy it but young enough to still be a handful. My mother-in-law and her significant other were with us as well. Initially, I was a bit dismayed by the last addition because her significant other was still recovering from a recent hip surgery and I was certain would slow us down dramatically. What I didn't realize was that anyone on a wheelchair or motorized scooter goes immediately to the front of every line- WITH THEIR ENTIRE ENTOURAGE! I am not proud of the way that we exploited his physical malady that day but I can say that with three kids and a pregnant wife we set a land speed record for most rides and parks in a single visit that still stands.
In the video clip below, Mary Maxwell talks about some of the disadvantages of this type of posturing in places other than Disney. Happy Friday!
http://www.caregiverstress.com/2012/08/seniors-at-the-gym/
In the video clip below, Mary Maxwell talks about some of the disadvantages of this type of posturing in places other than Disney. Happy Friday!
http://www.caregiverstress.com/2012/08/seniors-at-the-gym/
Wednesday, September 12, 2012
Three Crimes to Watch For
Home Instead Senior Care franchises across the country are in the middle of a public education campaign to protect seniors from fraud. According to a recent Metlife study, the annual financial loss incurred by seniors as a result of fraud is $2.9 billion. The Metlife study group the fraud perpetrated against seniors into three categories: crimes of occasion, crimes of desperation and crimes of predation.
Crimes of Predation-
This is what most people think of when they think about seniors being defrauded. Crimes of predation are crimes that spring out of relationships which were formed for the sole purpose of stealing from a senior. The fake charity that calls for a donation, the bogus repairman who "fixes" the shaky porch railing, the fraudulent termite inspector that treats for an infestation.
Crimes of Desperation-
These are the crimes that are rarely discussed. Crimes of desperation are typically committed by family or close friends. Usually, the person committing the crime is dependent upon the senior in some way financially. In my experience, I have seen children drain their parents finances or deprive their parents of the type of care they need because they don't want to spend what they already view as their inheritance. In these instances, the children don't believe that there is anything wrong with taking from their parents because they feel that they have somehow earned it.
Crimes of Occasion-
This type of fraud is usually committed just because the opportunity presented itself. The senior had money or something of value, the opportunity presented itself and the person took it.
For more resources on how to prevent crime against seniors visit www.protectseniorsfromfraud.com
Crimes of Predation-
This is what most people think of when they think about seniors being defrauded. Crimes of predation are crimes that spring out of relationships which were formed for the sole purpose of stealing from a senior. The fake charity that calls for a donation, the bogus repairman who "fixes" the shaky porch railing, the fraudulent termite inspector that treats for an infestation.
Crimes of Desperation-
These are the crimes that are rarely discussed. Crimes of desperation are typically committed by family or close friends. Usually, the person committing the crime is dependent upon the senior in some way financially. In my experience, I have seen children drain their parents finances or deprive their parents of the type of care they need because they don't want to spend what they already view as their inheritance. In these instances, the children don't believe that there is anything wrong with taking from their parents because they feel that they have somehow earned it.
Crimes of Occasion-
This type of fraud is usually committed just because the opportunity presented itself. The senior had money or something of value, the opportunity presented itself and the person took it.
For more resources on how to prevent crime against seniors visit www.protectseniorsfromfraud.com
Monday, September 10, 2012
A Sad (but fairly typical) Story
We are all familiar with the woeful reputation of Cinderella’s evil
stepmother. Certain roles in a family structure are notorious in repute.
They become historical punchlines- the old ball-n-chain, the in laws,
the mother in law, the crazy uncle. They are funny to talk about because
at some level and in some cases there is partial truth to them.
Recently, I spoke with a woman dealing with the care of her father. Her dad recently celebrated his 90th birthday and has started to exhibit some symptoms of mild dementia. He remarried about 15 years ago much to the chagrin of all of the children and the relationship between these adult children and their new “evil stepmother” never warmed. However, there was one topic on which they all agreed. They promised their dad/husband that they would never put him in a facility. This promise was to become the wedge that would drive the family apart.
Over the last several months, Dad’s condition has worsened. Not tremendously, but certainly to the point where the day to day aspects of providing care for him have become overwhelming for one person to handle. Suddenly, the promise to keep him at home is relative for his new wife. A nursing home seems the only acceptable solution. As one of the daughters told me this story her anger for her stepmother and the broken promise was palpable. This was not the plan. Dad deserves better.
One of the things we stress during our initial training sessions for new caregivers is the critical importance of taking care of the caregiver. As a caregiver, the rigors and demands of serving the increasing needs of a senior are staggering. The emotional toll of caregiving creates a level of stress to which even the most empathetic observers are oblivious. This stress manifests in different ways for different people. Upset stomach, insomnia, canker sores, back pain, headaches, loss of appetite, depression, among other symptoms are things to which we teach our caregivers to pay close attention. YOU ARE NO GOOD TO SOMEONE ELSE IF YOU DON’T TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST.
This “evil stepmother” is not truly evil in my opinion. Her desire is not to break the heartfelt promises of a family to an elderly man. She is a family caregiver who has reached her breaking point and been pushed beyond it. She wishes to put her husband into a retirement home because it is the only option she can see. It is the only relief in her sight. While any rational observer may be able to see that resources and help are available, she is no longer a rational observer. She is exhausted on a level that her “evil stepchildren” can’t comprehend. And the lack of understanding on both sides is what drives the wedge and fuels the stereotype.
Are you a family caregiver? For help managing stress visit- http://www.caregiverstress.com/
Recently, I spoke with a woman dealing with the care of her father. Her dad recently celebrated his 90th birthday and has started to exhibit some symptoms of mild dementia. He remarried about 15 years ago much to the chagrin of all of the children and the relationship between these adult children and their new “evil stepmother” never warmed. However, there was one topic on which they all agreed. They promised their dad/husband that they would never put him in a facility. This promise was to become the wedge that would drive the family apart.
Over the last several months, Dad’s condition has worsened. Not tremendously, but certainly to the point where the day to day aspects of providing care for him have become overwhelming for one person to handle. Suddenly, the promise to keep him at home is relative for his new wife. A nursing home seems the only acceptable solution. As one of the daughters told me this story her anger for her stepmother and the broken promise was palpable. This was not the plan. Dad deserves better.
One of the things we stress during our initial training sessions for new caregivers is the critical importance of taking care of the caregiver. As a caregiver, the rigors and demands of serving the increasing needs of a senior are staggering. The emotional toll of caregiving creates a level of stress to which even the most empathetic observers are oblivious. This stress manifests in different ways for different people. Upset stomach, insomnia, canker sores, back pain, headaches, loss of appetite, depression, among other symptoms are things to which we teach our caregivers to pay close attention. YOU ARE NO GOOD TO SOMEONE ELSE IF YOU DON’T TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST.
This “evil stepmother” is not truly evil in my opinion. Her desire is not to break the heartfelt promises of a family to an elderly man. She is a family caregiver who has reached her breaking point and been pushed beyond it. She wishes to put her husband into a retirement home because it is the only option she can see. It is the only relief in her sight. While any rational observer may be able to see that resources and help are available, she is no longer a rational observer. She is exhausted on a level that her “evil stepchildren” can’t comprehend. And the lack of understanding on both sides is what drives the wedge and fuels the stereotype.
Are you a family caregiver? For help managing stress visit- http://www.caregiverstress.com/
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